Alex 101

Helen's thoughts

So the other day I wrote this really long post about the lessons I had learned that lets get along with Alex. Blogger ate the post, so here's an attempt at remaking that post.
Except I know all of you has the brain size of a pea you're all very busy people who can't afford to read more than 5 minutes consecutively about something, so I've broken the post up into shorter ones. That way it'll give me something to post every day, and you'll be more likely to read it, so yay! Lol.
JFC looking how clingy this woman is! ps that's Elijah Wood
So here's the first lesson I've learned that really helps me get along with Alex: don't be clingy or overbearing! This is probably the first lesson regarding relationships I've ever learned, and it's such an important rule. It's so easy to forget that just because you're dating someone, they're not suddenly attached to you at the hip. Giving the other person some space for breathing is not only good for both of you, it sets boundaries and keeps the mystery alive.
I also value personal freedom and leisure time greatly, so I'm very careful to treat Alex how I'd like to be treated. Clinginess, I think, is also a sign of insecurity. While it's ok to be clingy sometimes, because it's also a show of affection, it's all in moderation. I only expect the same of Alex.
Clinginess isn't just in being physically attached to someone, either. I also consider it clingy if someone cannot stop talking about their lover. "Alex told me he really likes this sweater so I bought it. Alex has such great taste in clothes! He looked really hot in it! O yea Alex saw that movie that you were just talking about. He didn't like it much, so I didn't either." God just typing that annoyed me, lol. I've friends tell me that they appreciate me not talking about Alex unless they specifically asked something about him, or if what he said/did was actually short but relevant to the topic. Example "I LOVED the movie Inception, but Alex wouldn't stop making 'that's what she said' jokes every time the actors said 'We must go deeper', lol."
 Whenever I think I might be too clingy towards Alex, I busy myself with books and TV shows and video games, and don't return his calls right away. It's working pretty well so far :]


{ HSP } at: October 28, 2010 at 6:40 PM said...


Sorry, just kidding. I guess the key to good relationship is to keep everything balanced. I think you're right when you say clinginess is a sign of insecurity. When you believe your partner is the ONLY good thing you have, you should take a step back and reassess some things in your life.

{ Rachel The Bad Kitty } at: October 29, 2010 at 8:47 AM said...

I agree! Completely. I also find it annoying when women act this way about their children. It's like their entire world revolves around this one person, and they've lost themselves along the way.

{ Ada } at: October 29, 2010 at 9:47 AM said...



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